Why Psychological Guidance Is Always a Good Idea, Even When You’re Happy

18 Jul ‘22
6 min
Arianna Freni
Reviewed by psychologist Madelief Falkmann
“I don’t know what to talk about, everything’s going really well!”. This falls within the many reasons for a person’s emotional hesitation to seek mental well-being support. If you consider yourself a (generally) happy person, you might not find talking to a psychologist as necessary or useful. 


Truth is that mental well-being support doesn’t always have to be about challenging things. In many cases, exchanging views on what already makes you happy can help you even further become the most fulfilled and most loving version of yourself. 


Reality check


You might assume that talking with a psychologist means you are struggling with your mental well-being or experiencing a tough moment in your life. Often, many people have a vague understanding of how this can help under different circumstances. In fact, there are many reasons to start talking to a psychologist and all of them are equally valid.


Research shows that opening up to a psychologist might help you understand yourself and others better, work through thoughts that are more difficult to interpret or more recurring, and improve your ability to thrive and cope with adversities.


We can’t stress enough how seeking psychological support should be seen as a natural habit in our daily life and a preventative form of healthcare. Just like going to the gym benefits your body, a psychologist is a personal trainer for your mind. The benefits of this extend far beyond moments of difficulty.


Prevention is better than cure


One of my favourite sayings goes: ‘The best time to fix the roof is when the sun is shining.’ While the original philosophy behind this quote wasn’t intended for mental well-being, the overall sense is that we shouldn’t wait to deal with a potential problem, but rather we should take action while the conditions are favourable.


Similarly, looking after your mind long before any potential crisis is the key to being better equipped to manage tough moments in life. It is a judgement-free space where you can talk about any situation or issue you may be experiencing and learn to overcome them more easily, hence improving your overall wellbeing and quality of life.  


For those who are still debating whether or not talking to a psychologist is worth it, here we share a few reasons why we believe it is always a valuable tool. Even when you’re a happy person who has never thought about seeking mental well-being guidance before.


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1. Improve your coping mechanisms


Our life experiences shape the way we cope with emotions. Interpersonal relations and events regulate our ability to react in a healthy (or less healthy) way towards the vast occurrences of life.


Talking to a psychologist when you are in a good mental space makes it easier to reflect upon things and improve your awareness than when you are going through a tough moment.


It offers a sense of safety and helps you recognise your current social and emotional mechanisms. When needed, it will help you replace them with healthier and more beneficial ones.


2. Increase clarity


Even when you’re living an overall happy life, it is natural to have some things that bother you from time to time. It could be your partner’s annoying habit, your family’s discussion, or that unpleasant work situation.


Dealing with these challenging occurrences can impact your daily wellbeing and, in the long term, can make you less happy. Having a therapist to talk to helps you unearth and clarify your emotions. It can be indeed very useful to seek clarity with the help of someone outside of yourself. 


While family and friends can do this to some extent, a psychologist is trained to listen and considers the best possible context to share their observations. Identifying what you are feeling and why is not only a way to accurately label your emotions healthily, but also to make them less overwhelming and easier to manage.


3. Motivation boost


If you experience happiness in the present moment, why not commit to making sure this feeling is extended to your future? Maybe you aspire to achieve some career goals or relationship milestones, or you simply want to finally reach that good resolution you had in mind within the next year.


Talking with a psychologist about your future intentions motivates you toward living your best life and reaching your goals and resolutions. Psychologists have helpful advice to share with you and techniques you can apply to make progress and increase meaning in your life.


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4. Value your interpersonal communication


Talking to a psychologist enhances our awareness of others and of how we are perceived by those who have a relationship with us. Although you may not have relational issues, learning to communicate effectively improves almost every aspect of life. It helps with your job, relationships and overall satisfaction.


It is also a remarkable opportunity to give value and refine the way we interact with people around us. With practice, it is possible to learn to communicate more effectively by avoiding common mistakes and learning ways to both hear and be heard.


5. Grow as a person


Following a psychological path is a way to explore the depths of your mind and get to know yourself better. It isn’t so much about changing circumstances around you, but about discovering how to cope and respond to them. As such, this journey happens mostly on the inside rather than on the outside.


As you gain more insight into who you are, you learn how to grow into the person you wish to become by increasing your self-efficacy and sense of fulfilment. A trained psychologist will provide the understanding and tools you need to achieve this.


Sharing is caring


Talking to a psychologist is often misjudged and linked with inaccurate stigmatising prejudices. As a matter of fact, the benefits of mental well-being guidance extend way beyond the moments of pain and discomfort.


Having a psychologist to talk to allows you to reorientate your life, train your communications, label your emotions, and better understand your feelings. It is a safe place where you can reflect on the richness of your mind and cultivate the skills you might need beyond one particular struggle. So, even when you are happy with your life, consider giving it a try for your future self. 


A gentle reminder to keep in mind: seeking mental well-being support is nothing to be ashamed of. Talking to someone – whether you’re experiencing a big event or just feel like you need a little help – is probably the braver, most caring and compassionate act you can do for yourself.  Be proud instead.


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